Embracing the Power of Slow Living: Prioritising Self-Care with Purpose

Cheshire Therapy
7 min readJun 30, 2023

In today’s fast-paced world, the idea of living slowly with purpose may seem counterintuitive. The demands of work, family, and societal expectations often leave little room for self-care and reflection.

However, I believe that slowing down and prioritising self-care is essential for our mental and emotional well-being. I hope my guidance and insights on how women can embrace the power of slow living, infuse purpose into their lives, and make self-care a priority resonates with you.

Understanding the Essence of Slow Living

Slow living is about consciously choosing to live at a pace that allows us to savour each moment and experience. It’s a mindset shift that values quality over quantity, depth over superficiality. Slow living encourages us to fully engage in the present moment, rather than constantly rushing towards the next item on our to-do list.

Assessing Your Priorities

To truly live slowly and with purpose it is crucial to assess your priorities and identify what really matters to you. Take some time out to reflect on your values, passions, and aspirations. What can you do more of that brings you joy and fulfilment? Once you have a clear understanding of your priorities, you can make conscious choices that align with them.

Simplify Your Life

In our consumer-driven culture, we often accumulate material possessions and commitments that weigh us down. Simplifying your life is a powerful way to create space for self-care and purpose. Declutter your physical environment by letting go of items that no you no longer love or serve you. Similarly, declutter your schedule by learning to say no to activities or commitments that don’t align with your priorities.

Create a Self-Care Routine

Self-care is not and should never be seen as a luxury; it’s a necessity for our well-being. Develop a self-care routine that nourishes your mind, body, and soul, include activities such as meditation, journaling, practicing yoga, taking relaxing baths, or spending time in nature. Remember, self-care looks different for everyone, so find what resonates with you and make it a non-negotiable part of your daily life.

Practice Mindfulness

Mindfulness is the art of being fully present in the here and now. It allows us to cultivate a sense of awareness and appreciation for the simple joys of life. Incorporate mindfulness into your daily routine by engaging in activities with focused attention, such as savouring your morning cup of tea or coffee, taking a mindful walk with or without the dog, or spending quality time with loved ones without any distractions.

Cultivate Meaningful Connections

Strong social connections are essential for our overall well-being. Slow living provides an opportunity to nurture and deepen our relationships with those we love and love to be around. Make an effort to connect with loved ones on a deeper level by engaging in meaningful conversations, spending quality time together, and expressing your appreciation and love. Surrounding yourself with positive and supportive people enhances your sense of purpose and well-being.

Embrace the Power of saying “No”

Learning to say no is a crucial aspect of slow living. It allows you to set healthy boundaries and prioritise your well-being. Say no to excessive commitments, unrealistic expectations, and activities that drain your energy. By saying no to what doesn’t align with your purpose, you can create space and time for the things that truly matter.

Practice Gratitude

Gratitude is a powerful tool for cultivating a positive mindset and finding purpose in everyday life. Take a moment each day to reflect on the things you’re grateful for. It could be as simple as the warmth of sunlight, a delicious meal, or a kind gesture from a friend. By acknowledging and appreciating the blessings in your life, you shift your focus towards the present moment and cultivate a sense of fulfilment.

Seek Professional Support

If you find yourself struggling to prioritise self-care or uncover your purpose, seeking professional support can be immensely beneficial. A psychotherapist can provide guidance, tools, and a safe space for exploration. Therapy offers an opportunity to delve deeper into your emotions, beliefs, and aspirations, helping you gain clarity and develop strategies to live a more intentional and fulfilling life.

Embrace Flexibility and Patience

Living slowly with purpose and prioritising self-care is a journey, and it’s important to approach it with flexibility and patience. Remember that it’s absolutely okay to have setbacks or moments when life feels overwhelming. Be gentle with yourself and practice self-compassion during these times, ask those around you to support this. Embracing the power of slow living is about finding balance and making conscious choices that align with your values and well-being.

Harness the Power of Reflection

Reflection is a powerful tool for self-discovery and personal growth. Take time regularly to reflect on your experiences, emotions, and actions. Journaling can be a valuable practice for capturing your thoughts and insights. Use reflection as an opportunity to gain a deeper understanding of yourself, your desires, and your purpose. By cultivating self-awareness, you can make intentional choices that align with your values and bring you closer to living a purposeful life.

Set Realistic Goals

Setting goals that are aligned with your purpose can provide a sense of direction and motivation. However, it’s crucial to set realistic and achievable goals. Break down larger goals into smaller, actionable steps. This not only makes them more manageable but also allows you to celebrate small victories along the way. Remember to prioritise self-care as you work towards your goals and be open to adapting and adjusting them as needed.

Practice Self-Compassion

Self-compassion is an essential aspect of slow living and self-care. Treat yourself with kindness, understanding, and acceptance. Acknowledge that you are human and that there will be moments of imperfection and mistakes. Embrace self-forgiveness and let go of any self-judgment. By cultivating self-compassion, you create a nurturing and supportive relationship with yourself, which is the foundation for living a purposeful and fulfilling life.

Embrace the Joy of JOMO (Joy of Missing Out)

In a world filled with constant distractions and the fear of missing out (FOMO), embracing the joy of missing out (JOMO) can be liberating. Allow yourself to say no to activities or social events that don’t bring you joy or align with your priorities. Embrace the freedom and peace that comes from consciously choosing to miss out on things that don’t serve your well-being. Redirect your time and energy towards activities and experiences that truly bring you joy and fulfilment.

Cultivate a Healthy Relationship with Technology

Technology has become an integral part of our lives, but it’s important to establish boundaries and cultivate a healthy relationship with it. Set aside designated times for technology use and create tech-free zones or periods in your day. Disconnecting from screens allows you to be fully present, engage in self-care activities, and foster deeper connections with yourself and others.

Embrace Nature and the Outdoors

Nature has a unique and beautiful way of grounding us and providing a sense of peace and clarity. Make time to immerse yourself in nature regularly. Take walks in the park, hike in the countryside, or simply spend time pottering in your garden. Engage all of your senses and be present in the natural world around you. Connecting with nature can be a powerful way to slow down, find inspiration, and gain a deeper appreciation for the beauty of life.

Foster a Mindful Approach to Consumption

Slow living extends beyond just how we live our lives; it also encompasses how we consume. Adopt a mindful approach to consumption by being intentional with your choices. Consider the environmental impact, ethical considerations, and the true value something brings to your life before making a purchase. Practice gratitude for the possessions you already have and focus on experiences and connections rather than material possessions.

Prioritise Rest and Renewal

Rest and renewal are vital for maintaining overall well-being. Prioritise quality sleep and ensure you have regular periods of rest and relaxation. Give yourself permission to pause and recharge. Incorporate activities such as meditation, deep breathing exercises, or gentle stretching into your routine. Nurturing your mind and body through rest and renewal allows you to approach life with greater clarity, energy, and purpose.

Remember, slow living is a personal journey, and it will look different for everyone. Find what resonates with you, experiment with different practices, and allow yourself the freedom to adjust and refine your approach along the way. Embracing slow living, infusing purpose into your life, and prioritising self-care can lead to a more balanced, meaningful, and fulfilling existence. Start small, be patient with yourself, and enjoy the journey of living slowly with purpose.

I have written this with women in mind, maybe its something about the age/stage of life that I myself am in or the clients I have worked with over the last 2 years.

The concept of slow living with purpose and prioritising self-care can be transformative especially for women. I encourage you to embrace the power of living slowly, assessing your priorities, simplifying your life, and creating a self-care routine. Practice mindfulness, cultivate meaningful connections, and learn to say no to what doesn’t align with your purpose. Cultivate gratitude, seek professional support when needed, and remember to approach this journey with flexibility and patience. By embracing slow living, infusing purpose into your life, and making self-care a priority, you can create a more meaningful and fulfilling existence.

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Award Winning Psychotherapist, NLP Life Coach & Consultant with 14 years exp of working with Adults and Children. contactus@cheshiretherapy.org 07904184742